Letting go of the need to stick up for yourself
If I were to look back on my life I would say that the most amount of issues within any relationship seems to come from the need to defend oneself. One or both people are offended by something and feel something deep down isn't right and they need to do something about it before it gets worse. Psychology would argue that it's an innate human instinct, the need to protect oneself. In fact many of us are taught to protect ourselves in many ways growing up and through life lessons due to our natural tendencies to be trusting and assuming the best in people. God calls us to be like children (Mat 18:2-6). When children are raised in healthy, supportive, loving homes they tend to be very trusting and assuming of the best in humanity. Many of us as parents have to teach them to stand up for themselves. In certain ways that's truly necessary. However as life's pain accumulates we tend to get confused as to when it's necessary to stand up for our...