Healing Stages of Wounds
Avoidance is typically the cause of us becoming stuck, unable to heal further. It's at the root of PTSD, it's what causes a trauma to become PTSD. It can take trusted people around us to help reveal those areas in which we are avoiding and help us, well, stop avoiding it/them. This is not privileged knowledge. Most of us instinctively know that we need to open up with those around us to find healing. In that process of trusting and opening up we find healing though increased connection and increasing trust in people. However...that is much more difficult than it leads on when someone has been through many hardships, hurts, losses and traumas. Trust needs to be established through consistent support, unconditional regard and lots of patience. This is the foundation of modern psychotherapy (person centered anyways). This can be found in community as well. Once trust, true and deep trust is established then, and only then, the trusted person can speak truth in a l